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A Taste of BDSM

BDSM is an acronym for: bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S), and sadism and masochism (S&M). The terms are grouped together as BDSM and this acronym can mean different things to different people and can even be non-sexual in some cases. Here’s a beginner’s guide to the world of BDSM.

Breaking it down

BDSM includes a variety of activities, ranging from light bondage and erotic spanking to advanced bondage practices and even electrostimulation.

Whilst bondage and discipline incorporate physical elements including restraints and physical sensations, dominance and submission revolves around emotional and psychological elements including role play between the dom and sub and consensual power exchanges.

Sadism and masochism refers to the roles in which one person takes pleasure in giving a physical sensation (the sadist), while the other person takes pleasure in receiving physical sensation (the masochist). Many people consider BDSM weird, demeaning, or worse. Nevertheless, fans of this kink refer to it as the most loving, nurturing, intimate form of human contact to exist.

How to begin

The first thing you must decide is if you’re more into B&D or S&M. If the former, blindfolding the sub can be a fun way to start but if the latter, then spanking is the most common practice for beginners.

When introducing an idea to your partner, or vice versa, be specific about the types of activities that interest you both the most, such as spanking, biting, handcuffing or being tied up. Constant communication is helpful and can prevent any embarrassment or misunderstanding.

Most folks regularly partake in casual, conformist sex that involves little conversation or emotional connection before getting physical. The opposite can be said for BDSM. Partners always arrange details in advance with clear, intimate communication and instruction, which forms a special erotic bond.

Learning the Ropes

The use of blindfolds, fluffy handcuffs or ice cubes are all relatively harmless beginner activities if you’re into them. Now, before participating with some of the more advanced tools, you need to learn how to do so safely. Even a rope or a whip can be dangerous if you don’t know how to use it properly. There are light floggers, leather whips, whips with single tails, whips with multiple tails that are flat and wide – and much, much more. Since certain props can be harsher than others, it is essential to learn how to use them properly. Signing up for workshops and classes can be a fun and easy way to learn the ropes so to speak.

It’s about trust

Intimidation is often associated with BDSM and people can wildly misunderstand the whole concept, but BDSM can be as hard-core or as tame as you want it to be. Think of the game, ‘Trust Me’, in which one person stands behind the other. The one in front falls backward, trusting the other to catch them before crashing to the floor. There’s an element of danger and the risk in this game by not getting caught and hurting yourself. When the falling player trusts the catcher enough to let go completely, and the catch happens as planned, both players experience a moment of ecstasy that’s difficult to replicate. BDSM acts in a similar manner. It is all about trust. When trust trumps the possibility of harm, the result can feel incredibly intimate and euphoric.

Your safe word

BDSM is often more theatrical than real. Sessions are dubbed ‘scenes’ and participants, referred to as ‘players’, carefully telegraph their moves well in advance. Firstly, participants agree on a ‘safe’ word, which is a signal to stop that the sub can invoke at any time. The safe word immediately stops the action until the players have mutually agreed to resume or move onto another action. Any dom who fails to honour pre-arranged safe words violates the sub’s trust and in turn, destroys the relationship. As previously stated trust is key!

Subs are in charge

The irony of a safe word is that it puts the sub firmly in control. They can invoke the stop signal using the agreed safe word, and the dominant must obey immediately. Meanwhile, although the dominant acts in charge, they must also be caring and nurturing, taking the submissive to their agreed limit, but never beyond it. In this way, BDSM provides an opportunity for everyone to experiment, while always feeling safe and secure. People who enjoy BDSM claim that it results in the most incredible erotic sensations.

So, the question is, are you ready to try something new?

Our meeting

When it comes to how we spend our time together, the world (andyour imagination) is our oyster. I’m just as comfortable lounging in Egyptian cotton as I am awaiting your command on the end of a leash.

We can while away the hours in my Central London apartment, exploring your deepest desires and whispered fantasies. If you prefer to go out, let’s flirt over dinner and drinks before retiring for pudding. As a submissive, I’m especially drawn to kinky encounters, but I also enjoy more languid, intimate GFE experiences.

I play especially well with others, so perhaps we could also invite one of my friends to join our tryst. And if your prefer your flings a little further-flung, I travel internationally to meet foreign lovers.

Aim higher than acronyms. Reject one-size-fits-all, and seek out your equal. Pursue a lover with a mind as sharp as her stilettos and a rebellious streak that’s reserved for those unafraid of it.

2019 — Louisa Knight