Last Saturday afternoon I found myself meandering down the Hackney Road in the bright spring sunshine, on my way to show a room-full of strangers my bottom.
So far, so predictable, as far as my weekends go. However, this was to be a new experience for me, as I was on my way to a Mistress Workshop to provide some glamorous assistance.
Run by the gorgeous and indomitable Miss Kim (of Club Rub fame), these female-only workshops provide a comprehensive introduction to the world of female domination, with tips, insight and guidance on how to bring your lover to their knees (and keep them there). Catering to all manner of prospective Mistresses, from the absolute beginner to the budding pro domme, the workshops combine a brilliant mix of practical guidance and broader conversation about BDSM. On this occasion, there were 13 very willing participants, with a diverse range of reasons behind their attendance. Some were planning to turn pro, whilst others were seeking to flex their newly-discovered dominant muscles at home. A few more were looking to rebuild their sexual confidence and a handful were just plain curious – and who could blame them?
Of course, no workshop would be complete without a bit of show and tell, which was where I came in. I had been enlisted as a ‘stunt bottom’ for Kim’s demonstrations of erotic spanking and implement-based corporal punishment (CP for those in the know). As a former professional submissive, I was more than happy to oblige.
The time came for the erotic spanking demo, and I wiggled my pencil skirt down and lay, bottom up, on a table at the front of the class. I have to admit, I’ve never previously experienced the sexual appeal of exhibitionism and being observed. However, with 13 pairs of expectant eyes focused on my naked bottom I felt a charge of excitement jolt through me.
Kim’s technique was flawless, and she demonstrated how, rather than being exclusively punitive, a well-delivered spanking can be an incredibly sensual experience for both sub and domme. Her top tips for a truly memorable spanking? A cupped, not flat, palm, a variety of rhythms, gradually escalating intensity, and (most importantly) interludes of stroking and caresses. By the time the demo drew to a close I was feeling supremely blissed out.
We then moved swiftly on to the CP demonstration. I’m a big fan of this kind of play, but as all subs will tell you, it’s crucial that you’re well warmed up before-hand, and that you trust the person wielding the implement. Bent over now, with my elbows resting on the table, Kim showed her dommes-in-training the correct way to use paddles, floggers and crops. She then selected a cane, and cracked several firm strokes across my (now nicely rosy) bum. Kim explained that there was no need for a giant swing back, just a soft yet controlled wrist to ensure that strokes landed on the fleshy middle part of the sub’s derrière. Much to my delight, she then invited the class to have a go themselves, and one by one the ladies took turns with the cane. I’m pleased to report that all involved had a natural flair for punishment.
Demonstrations over, I re-took my seat for the rest of the workshop, now thoroughly distracted and grinning from ear to ear.
If you’re looking to familiarise yourself with your dominant side, or you know someone who is, you can find more information about the workshops here. They come very highly recommended indeed.