I am a woman who thinks with her body. I spend a great deal of time attending to what makes a body (both mine and maybe yours) feel good, recognising pleasure’s capacity to awaken a drive for something more. This is sometimes an act of unlearning – we can know …
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On setting the scene
Something I hear from almost every client is a desire to be with a companion that is also having a great time. Which is fantastic! But over the years I’ve found that most people are only thinking about sex when they say that and miss the thing that makes these …
On the spot
With in-person dates now resuming (hooray!), and new connections on the horizon, I thought it might be handy to collate my responses to someone of the questions I get asked most frequently, so that we can expedite getting to know one another. Q: How did you get into this? A: …
On the radio
Hello dear blog readers, long time no speak. I wish I could pretend I’d been neglecting as I was off living the life of Riley, but it’s January 2021 and no such thing exists any more. Now that we’re out the sourdough and rampant gardening phase of lockdown, a girl’s …
On offence
When I moved into a new house recently, the previous owners had left a small blackboard hanging on the kitchen wall. On it, the familiar palimpsest of forgotten notes, the chalky ghosts of ‘milk!’ and ‘call Stuart’ clumsily erased but not entirely gone. But one item had been left proudly …
On Work Ethics
Formerly sin was made clear to us through religion. It was simple. To paraphrase a recent take: if you aren’t behaving in a manner the church would have disapproved of 500 years ago, are you even living? In the absence of a religious context, we’ve had to reevaluate what we …
On top
He begins by telling me to undress. And the ‘telling’, here, is key. It’s not ‘please could you undress’ but ‘undress.’ Just like that. Stark and simple and commanding. Establishing, with a single word, that he is the one in control: on top. This is the start of the story. …
On looking (and not touching)
As children, we’re taught it’s rude to stare, the implication being that to look for too long is vulgar, even invasive. “Visibility,” Foucault stated famously, “is a trap,” and it’s a fact now universally accepted that a person is weakened, rendered almost powerless by their having been seen. This opinion …
On denial
You don’t need a degree in psychoanalysis to know we human beings are programmed to want what we cannot have. Denial is its own heat source, a generator of acute, erotic energy. And yet it is more complicated than mere refusal, and can arrive to us in many forms. “They …
On snapshots
Seeking something to distract you from a grey Monday morning? Can I recommend the brand new photos by the wonderful Studio St Germain over in my gallery (and with a glimpse below)? It was an absolute pleasure working with Lizzy, whose fashion background really caught my eye. Not only is her …
On laughter
One lesson firmly instilled in me by my dashing school music tutor was: even if you make a mistake, never stop playing. As I got older, fumbling my way through various sexual encounters, I realised this was a useful refrain in more situations than simply clarinet recitals. Things go wrong …
On kicks
I’m a sucker for synths. And for love songs. So really I was looking for any excuse to roll around in sneakers and lingerie listening to 10cc. This little promo, which I’m calling Kicks for the aforementioned footwear, is the outcome. One for all the other lovers of synths and …
